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Monday, July 05, 2010
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Yes.
yes she is not fine. she is not felling well since 9 days. :( she is also tense...
I am praying for her. i wish all will be fine with her. Ameen.
I am praying for her. i wish all will be fine with her. Ameen.
Friday, June 18, 2010
where you want to see yourself in next five years?
yes this question was asked by interviewer yesterday.
and i couldn't give him the right answer that was in my mind.
I wanna see myself with my kids and husband in next five years, and i see myself as a great house wife. not a working women.
for few sec i got silent, what to reply him. then suddenly project manager came in my mind, because i did PMP training, and after doing that it was one of my goal.... to become pm, only in case i ddnt get married.
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and i couldn't give him the right answer that was in my mind.
I wanna see myself with my kids and husband in next five years, and i see myself as a great house wife. not a working women.
for few sec i got silent, what to reply him. then suddenly project manager came in my mind, because i did PMP training, and after doing that it was one of my goal.... to become pm, only in case i ddnt get married.
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Sunday, January 17, 2010
KHUDA K LIYE
jo dil me ha wahi muh sa kaho khuda k liye
oowey sa to rehny he fo go-ma-go khuda k liye\
kabhi kabhi to zadam ranja kijiye yaa bhi
milaap tarak na biklkul karo khuda k liye
hamesha ghero k to sath phirty chalty ho
kabhi hamary ghar tak chalo khuda k liye
hai ikhtiyar tumhen mano ya ..
jo hum kahyn aur sa tum sun to lo khuda k liye
karo na aashiq miskeen par apna chashm etaab
butoo khuda k ghazab k daro khuda k liye
nahi hun ap key me aabro ka kuch dushman
ye itna munh sa kaho to Khuda k liye
Khuda k wastay dyty han sir bakhi apna,
tum aik boosa to do ay butoo khuda k liye
hazaaroo auroo ki suntay ho aik mari bhi
laga k kaan zara suno tum khuda k liye
zafar ki arz ye ha ya janab-e-fakhr-jahan
mujhy ghulam tum apna gino khuda k liye.
mari bat to koi nahi sunta jo sunta ha ghalat samjhta ha. Ya ALLAH ye kaha ka insaaf ha tera. Ya ALLAH me sirf tujh par bharosa kiye huay hu. Me na tujh par chora ha sab kuch. tu hi insaaf kar. aur tu hi saza dy har us ko jo saza k qabil ha, jis na mary sath bura kia.
Hazrat nouman bin basheer sa riwayat ha k Huzoor Mohammad (pbuh) na farmaya, momineen ki misaal ik dosry par reham karny dosti rakhny aur shafqat ka muzahira karny me ik jism ki tarah ha, chunacha jab bhi jism k kisi hissy ko takleef pohochti ha to sara jism be khwabi aur bukhar me us ka shareek hota ha.
me na agar kisi par reham kia aur momin samjh kar, aur us na us ka badla us ka ulat lia to. Ya-ALLAH to sab daikhny wala ha, tujh sa kuch chupa hua nahi ha, Tu insaaf kar mary haq me. is dunia ma nahi to. akhrat ki zindagi me.
Allah will do the justice.
hazrat abdullah sa riwayat ha, Huzoor Mohammad PBUH ne farmaya , aik musalman dosray musalman ka bhai ha, wo is par zulm karta ha na isay be yar -o- madadgar chorta ha. jo shakhs apny musalman bhai k kam ata rehta ha ALLAH us k kam me madad karta ha. aur jo shakhs kisi musalman ki duniawi mushkil hal karta ha ALLAH us ko Ukhrowi Mushkilat me sa koi mushkil hal farmaey ga, aur jo shakhs kisi muslman ki parda poshi karta ha ALLAH qayamat k din is ki satar poshi kary ga.
oowey sa to rehny he fo go-ma-go khuda k liye\
kabhi kabhi to zadam ranja kijiye yaa bhi
milaap tarak na biklkul karo khuda k liye
hamesha ghero k to sath phirty chalty ho
kabhi hamary ghar tak chalo khuda k liye
hai ikhtiyar tumhen mano ya ..
jo hum kahyn aur sa tum sun to lo khuda k liye
karo na aashiq miskeen par apna chashm etaab
butoo khuda k ghazab k daro khuda k liye
nahi hun ap key me aabro ka kuch dushman
ye itna munh sa kaho to Khuda k liye
Khuda k wastay dyty han sir bakhi apna,
tum aik boosa to do ay butoo khuda k liye
hazaaroo auroo ki suntay ho aik mari bhi
laga k kaan zara suno tum khuda k liye
zafar ki arz ye ha ya janab-e-fakhr-jahan
mujhy ghulam tum apna gino khuda k liye.
mari bat to koi nahi sunta jo sunta ha ghalat samjhta ha. Ya ALLAH ye kaha ka insaaf ha tera. Ya ALLAH me sirf tujh par bharosa kiye huay hu. Me na tujh par chora ha sab kuch. tu hi insaaf kar. aur tu hi saza dy har us ko jo saza k qabil ha, jis na mary sath bura kia.
Hazrat nouman bin basheer sa riwayat ha k Huzoor Mohammad (pbuh) na farmaya, momineen ki misaal ik dosry par reham karny dosti rakhny aur shafqat ka muzahira karny me ik jism ki tarah ha, chunacha jab bhi jism k kisi hissy ko takleef pohochti ha to sara jism be khwabi aur bukhar me us ka shareek hota ha.
me na agar kisi par reham kia aur momin samjh kar, aur us na us ka badla us ka ulat lia to. Ya-ALLAH to sab daikhny wala ha, tujh sa kuch chupa hua nahi ha, Tu insaaf kar mary haq me. is dunia ma nahi to. akhrat ki zindagi me.
Allah will do the justice.
hazrat abdullah sa riwayat ha, Huzoor Mohammad PBUH ne farmaya , aik musalman dosray musalman ka bhai ha, wo is par zulm karta ha na isay be yar -o- madadgar chorta ha. jo shakhs apny musalman bhai k kam ata rehta ha ALLAH us k kam me madad karta ha. aur jo shakhs kisi musalman ki duniawi mushkil hal karta ha ALLAH us ko Ukhrowi Mushkilat me sa koi mushkil hal farmaey ga, aur jo shakhs kisi muslman ki parda poshi karta ha ALLAH qayamat k din is ki satar poshi kary ga.
Hijr ki pyaas
Hijr ki pyaas main qatra bhi bahut hota hai
Deed k wastay lamha bhi buhat hota hai
Tum agar paas nahi ho to koi baat nahi
Sirf ehsas ka dhoka bhi buhat hota hai
Jin pe hota hai buhat maan, buhat gehra maan
Woh badal jaen to sadma bhi buhat hota hai
Aur phir khud hi palt aata hun men raste se
Warna chalne ka irada bhi buhat hota hai
Paas hota hai to choone nahi deta khud ko
Dur ho jaun to shikwa bhi buhat hota hai
Jin k kho jane pe kho jate hen sab hosh o hawas
Un k mil jane ka nasha bhi bahut hota hai
Ab koi aur talab dil men nahi hai Wasiq
Ab teri yad ka haala bhi bahut hota hai
Deed k wastay lamha bhi buhat hota hai
Tum agar paas nahi ho to koi baat nahi
Sirf ehsas ka dhoka bhi buhat hota hai
Jin pe hota hai buhat maan, buhat gehra maan
Woh badal jaen to sadma bhi buhat hota hai
Aur phir khud hi palt aata hun men raste se
Warna chalne ka irada bhi buhat hota hai
Paas hota hai to choone nahi deta khud ko
Dur ho jaun to shikwa bhi buhat hota hai
Jin k kho jane pe kho jate hen sab hosh o hawas
Un k mil jane ka nasha bhi bahut hota hai
Ab koi aur talab dil men nahi hai Wasiq
Ab teri yad ka haala bhi bahut hota hai
Saturday, January 09, 2010
Greatest Act
[2. Surah Al-Baqarah : Ayah 195]
And spend in the way of Allah and cast not yourselves to perdition with your own hands, and do good (to others); surely Allah loves the doers of good.
Greatest Act
[4.Surah An-Nisaa : Ayah 103]
"Then when you have finished the prayer, remember Allah standing and sitting and reclining; but when you are secure (from danger) keep up prayer."
[7.Surah Al-Araf : Ayah 205]
"And remember your Lord within yourself humbly and fearing and in a voice not loud in the morning and the evening and be not of the heedless ones."
[ 8.Surah Al-Anfal : Ayah 45]
"O you who believe! when you meet a party, then be firm, and remember Allah much, that you may be successful."
[13.Surah Ar-Ra'd : Ayah 27-28]
"Surely Allah makes him who will go astray, and guides to Himself those who turn (to Him). Those who believe and whose hearts are set at rest by the remembrance of Allah; now surely by Allah's remembrance are the hearts set at rest."
[20. Surah Taha : Ayah 14]
"Surely I am Allah, there is no god but 1, therefore serve Me and keep up prayer for My remembrance."
[29. Surah Al-Ankabut : Ayah 45]
"Certainly the remembrance of Allah is the greatest, and Allah knows what you do."
[33. Surah Al-Ahzab : Ayah 35,41-42]
"And the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember-- Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a mighty reward."
"O you who believe! remember Allah, remembering frequently, And glorify Him morning and evening."
[62. Surah Al-Juma : Ayah 10]
"Remember Allah much, that you may be successful."
[63. Surah Al-Munafiqun : Ayah 9]
"O you who believe! let not your wealth, or your children, divert you from the remembrance of Allah; and whoever does that, these are the losers."
[73. Surah Al-Muzzammil : Ayah 8]
"And remember the name of your Lord and devote yourself to Him with (exclusive) devotion."
[74. Surah Al-Muddathhir : Ayah 3]
"And your Lord do magnify."
[76. Surah Al-Insan : Ayah 25-26]
"And glorify the name of your Lord morning and evening. And during part of the night adore Him, and give glory to Him (a) long (part of the) night."
[94. Surah Al-Sharh : Ayah 7-8]
"So when you are free, nominate. And make your Lord your exclusive object."
[110. Surah Al-Nasr : Ayah 3]
"Then celebrate the praise of your Lord, and ask His forgiveness; surely He is oft-returning (to mercy)."
[Sahih Hadith: Volume 8, Book 75, Number 416]
Narrated 'Abu Musa (Radi Allah Anhu) : The Prophet Muhammad (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) said, "The example of the one who remembers (glorifies the Praises of his Lord) Allah in comparison to the one who does not remember (glorifies the Praises of his Lord) Allah, is that of a Living creature to a Dead one."
And spend in the way of Allah and cast not yourselves to perdition with your own hands, and do good (to others); surely Allah loves the doers of good.
Greatest Act
[4.Surah An-Nisaa : Ayah 103]
"Then when you have finished the prayer, remember Allah standing and sitting and reclining; but when you are secure (from danger) keep up prayer."
[7.Surah Al-Araf : Ayah 205]
"And remember your Lord within yourself humbly and fearing and in a voice not loud in the morning and the evening and be not of the heedless ones."
[ 8.Surah Al-Anfal : Ayah 45]
"O you who believe! when you meet a party, then be firm, and remember Allah much, that you may be successful."
[13.Surah Ar-Ra'd : Ayah 27-28]
"Surely Allah makes him who will go astray, and guides to Himself those who turn (to Him). Those who believe and whose hearts are set at rest by the remembrance of Allah; now surely by Allah's remembrance are the hearts set at rest."
[20. Surah Taha : Ayah 14]
"Surely I am Allah, there is no god but 1, therefore serve Me and keep up prayer for My remembrance."
[29. Surah Al-Ankabut : Ayah 45]
"Certainly the remembrance of Allah is the greatest, and Allah knows what you do."
[33. Surah Al-Ahzab : Ayah 35,41-42]
"And the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember-- Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a mighty reward."
"O you who believe! remember Allah, remembering frequently, And glorify Him morning and evening."
[62. Surah Al-Juma : Ayah 10]
"Remember Allah much, that you may be successful."
[63. Surah Al-Munafiqun : Ayah 9]
"O you who believe! let not your wealth, or your children, divert you from the remembrance of Allah; and whoever does that, these are the losers."
[73. Surah Al-Muzzammil : Ayah 8]
"And remember the name of your Lord and devote yourself to Him with (exclusive) devotion."
[74. Surah Al-Muddathhir : Ayah 3]
"And your Lord do magnify."
[76. Surah Al-Insan : Ayah 25-26]
"And glorify the name of your Lord morning and evening. And during part of the night adore Him, and give glory to Him (a) long (part of the) night."
[94. Surah Al-Sharh : Ayah 7-8]
"So when you are free, nominate. And make your Lord your exclusive object."
[110. Surah Al-Nasr : Ayah 3]
"Then celebrate the praise of your Lord, and ask His forgiveness; surely He is oft-returning (to mercy)."
[Sahih Hadith: Volume 8, Book 75, Number 416]
Narrated 'Abu Musa (Radi Allah Anhu) : The Prophet Muhammad (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) said, "The example of the one who remembers (glorifies the Praises of his Lord) Allah in comparison to the one who does not remember (glorifies the Praises of his Lord) Allah, is that of a Living creature to a Dead one."
Friday, January 08, 2010
Sadqa
Agar bachpun main hame koi chot lug jaati to dadi kehtiN: "Chalo achha huwa, bari musibat ka saqda huwa".
Kiya ye sach hoga ke zindagi main darasl koi chota nuqsan is baat ka istaa'ra hota hai ke hamara koi bara nuqsan hone wala tha magar qudrat ne hamari bachat ker di!
Kiya ye sach hoga ke zindagi main darasl koi chota nuqsan is baat ka istaa'ra hota hai ke hamara koi bara nuqsan hone wala tha magar qudrat ne hamari bachat ker di!
Thursday, January 07, 2010
zindagi har roz class lyti ha
bara dushwar hota ha, zara sa Faisla karna, K Zindagi ki kahani ko, Biyan-o-bazabnko, kaha sa yad rakhna ha, kaha se bhol jana ha, kisy kitna batana ha, ki say kitna chupana ha, kaha hans hans k rona ha, kaha ro ro k hansna ha, kaha awaz daini ha, kaha khamosh rehna ha, kaha rasta badalna ha, kaha sy lot ana ha. bara dushwar hota ha, zara sa faisla karna.
بڑا دشوار ہوتا ہے
ذرا سا فیصلہ کرنا
کہ جیون کی کہانی کو
بیانِ بے زبانی کو
کہاں سے یاد رکھنا ہے
کہاں سے بھول جانا ہے
اِسے کتنا بتانا ہے
اِسے کتنا چھپانا ہے
کہاں رو رو کے ہنسنا ہے
کہاں ہنس ہنس کے رونا ہے
کہاں آواز دینی ہے
کہاں خاموش رہنا ہے
کہاں رَستہ بدلنا ہے
کہاں سے لوَٹ آنا ہے
(سلیم کوثر)
Wednesday, January 06, 2010
Trust
Zindagi main khun se bhi bara aik rishta hota hai - 'Bharose ka rishta' (trust). Jub ye tootta hai to sab se ziyada takleef hoti hai - jese kaanch ka koi glass haathon main toot jaaye aur bohat si choti choti kirchiyaaN andar ko dhans jaaye - aur insaan bus hateli khol ke halke halke raste khoon aur un pe lagi kirchiyooN ko dekhta reh jaaye!
Thursday, December 31, 2009
zaroorat
"Duniya main is se ziyada achhi koi baat nahi ke kisi ko aap ki zaroorat nahi. Kiunke kisi ki zaroorat insaan pe bara bojh daal deti hai - aur insaan ko bara kamzor ker deti hai...... Ye to achha hai ke ab tumhe meri zaroorat nahi"
Zindagi main kuch log aap ko thori der ke liye milte hain magar ta-hayat ghere naqoosh chor jaate hain.
Meri zindagi main bohut hi aese kum mauqe (occasions) aaye honge jub main apni bisat se ziyada roya. aur aj ka din un me sa aik ha.
agay najany aur kitny din aysy ayey gy. jin ka me sochti hu k mujh ma samna karny ki himmat nahi....
Baqol Hazrat Ali: "Badnaseeb hai woh shaks jise dost na mile, aur us se bhi ziyada badnaseeb hai woh shaks jo achhe doston ko kho de" !
Zindagi main kuch log aap ko thori der ke liye milte hain magar ta-hayat ghere naqoosh chor jaate hain.
Meri zindagi main bohut hi aese kum mauqe (occasions) aaye honge jub main apni bisat se ziyada roya. aur aj ka din un me sa aik ha.
agay najany aur kitny din aysy ayey gy. jin ka me sochti hu k mujh ma samna karny ki himmat nahi....
Baqol Hazrat Ali: "Badnaseeb hai woh shaks jise dost na mile, aur us se bhi ziyada badnaseeb hai woh shaks jo achhe doston ko kho de" !
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Habib Jalib's Mainay Uss Say Yeh Kaha
میں نے اس سے یہ کہا
یہ جو دس کروڑ ہیں
جہل کا نچوڑ ہیں
ان کی فکر سو گئی
ہر امید کی کرن
ظلمتوں میں کھو گئی
یہ خبر درست ہے
ان کی موت ہوگئی
بے شعور لوگ ہیں
زندگی کا روگ ہیں
اور تیرے پاس ہے
ان کے درد کی دوا
حبیب جالب کی یہ نظم کچھ حسبِ موقع لگی ہے۔
Saturday, December 26, 2009
sach ye ha k
"Suna hai - mard ke dil ka raasta uske pet(stomach) se ho ker jata hai"
"Nahi - Mard ke dil ka raasta uski Ma se ho ker jaata hai"
"Nahi - Mard ke dil ka raasta uski Ma se ho ker jaata hai"
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Jawab-e-Shikwah by Allama Iqbal
dil ko cho jany wala shikwa aur jawab e shikwa. agar dil sa suno to ankhen pur num ho jaen. jasy me rony lagi thi ye sun kar.
i wish i could be a gud muslim. as ALLAH want me.
i wish i could be a gud muslim. as ALLAH want me.
TUM EK GORAKH DHANDHA HO
Kabhi yehan tumhein dhoondha kabhi wahan puhancha
Tumhari Deed Ki Khatir Kahan Kahan puhancha
Ghareeb mit gaye, Pamaal ho gaye lekin
Kissi talak na tera aaj tak nishan puhancha
Ho bhi nahin aur...
Ho bhi nahin aur har jaa ho
Tum Ek Gorakh dhandha ho...
Nit naye naqsh banatay ho mita dete ho
Jaane kis jurm-e-tamana ki saza dete ho
Kabhi kankar ko bana dete ho heeray ki kani
Kabhi heeron ko bhi mitti mein mila dete ho
Jindagi kitnay hi murdon ko ata ki jiss ne
Woh maseeha bhi saleebon pe saja dete ho
Khwahish-e-deed jo kar baithe sar-e-toor koi
Toor hi bark-e-tajalli se jala dete ho
Naar-e-namrood mein dalwatay hu khud apna khaleel
Khud hi phir naar ko gulzaar bana dete ho
Chahe kinaan mein phainko kabhi mahe in aan
Noor yakuub ki aankhon ka bujha dete ho
Becho yusuf ko kabhi misr ke baazaaron mein
Akhir-e-kaar shah-e-misr bana dete ho
Jazb-o-masti ki jo manzil pe puhanchta hai koi
Baith kar dil mein an-al-haq ki sada dete ho
Khud hi lagwatay ho phir kufr ke fatway uss par
Khud hi mansoor ko sooli pe charha dete ho
Apni hasti bhi woh ik roz ganwa baithta hai
Apne darshan ki lagan jis ko laga dete ho
Koi raanjha jo kabhi khoj mein nilklay tumkar
Tum ussay jhang ke bele mein rula deta ho
Justajoo le ke tumhari jo chale kais koi
Uss ko majnoon kissi laila ka bana dete ho
Jot sassi ke agar mann mein tumhari jaagay
Tum usse tapte huay thal mein jala dete ho
Sohni gar tum ko mahiwal tasawwur kar le
Uss ko biphri hui lehron mein baha dete ho
Khud jo chaaho to sar-e-arsh bula kar mehboob
Ek hi raat mein mairaaj kara dete ho
Aap hi apna parda ho
Aap hi apna pardaa ho
Tum ek gorakh dhandha ho
Jo kehta hoon maana, tumhein lagta hai bura sa
Phir bhi hai mujhe tum se baharhaal gila sa
Chup chaap rahe dekthe tum Arsh-e-Bareen par
Tapte huay karbal mein Muhammad ka nawasa
Kiss tarhe pilata tha lahoo apna wafa ko
Khud teen dinon se wo agarche tha piyasa
Dushman to bahar taur thay dushman magar afsos
Tum ne bhi faraham na kiya paani zara sa
Har zulm ki taufeeq hai zalim ki wirasat
Mazloom ke hissay mein tassali na dilasa
Kal taaj saja dekha tha jiss shakhs ke sar par
Hai aaj ussi shakhs ke hathon mein hikasa
Yeh kya hai agar poochoon to kehte ho jawaban
Iss raaz se ho sakta nahin koi shanasa
Hairat ki ek duniya ho
Hairat ki ek duniya ho
Tum ek gorakh dhandha ho
Har ek jaa pe ho lekin pata nahin maaloom
Tumhara naam suna hai nishaan nahin maaloom
Dil se arman jo nikal jaaye to jugnoon ho jaye
Aur aankhon mein simat aaye to aansoo ho jaye
Japeya huu ka jo be huu kare huu mein kho kar
Uss ko sultaniyan mil jayen wo ba huu jo jaye
Baal beeka na kissi ka ho churri ke neeche
Halk-e-asghar mein kabhi teer tarazoo ho jaye
Kiss kadar be-niyaz ho tum bhi
Daastaan-e-daraaz ho tum bhi
Aah-e-Tehkeek mein har gam pe uljhan dekhoon
Wohi haalat-o-khayalat mein an ban dekhoon
Ban ke reh jaata hoon tasweer pareshani ki
Ghaur se jab bhi kabhi duniya ka darpan dekhoon
Ek hi khaak pe fitrat ke tazaadat itnay
Kitnay hisson mein bata ek hi aangan dekhoon
Kahin zehmat ki sulagti hui patjhar ka samaan
Kahin rehmat ke baraste huay sawan dekhoon
Kahin phunkaarte darya, kahin khamosh pahaar
Kahin jangal, kahin sehra, kahin gulshan dekhoon
Khun rulata hai yeh takseem ka andaaz mujhe
Koi dhanwaan yehan par koi nirdhan dekhoon
Din ke haathon mein faqat ek sulagta sooraj
Raat ki maang sitaron se muzzayyan dekhoon
Kahin murjhaaye huay phool hain sacchai ke
Aur kahin jhoot ke kaanton pe bhi joban dekhoon
Shams ki kaal kahin khichti nazar aati hai
Kahin sarmad ki uttarti hui gardan dekhoon
Raat kya shai hai saweera kya hai
Yeh ujala yeh andhera kya hai
Mein bhi nayib hun tumhara akhir
Kyon yeh kehte ho ke tera kya hai
Dekhne wala tujhe kya dekhta
Tu ne har har samt se parda kiya
Masjid Mandir...
Masjid, Mandir, Yeh Maikhane
Koi yeh maane, koi woh maane
Masjid, Mandir, Yeh Maikhane
Koi yeh maane, koi woh maane
Sab tere hain jaana aashanay
Koi yeh maane, koi woh maane
Ek honay ka tere kaayil hai
Inkaar pe koi maayil hai
Asleeyat lekin tu jaane
Koi Yeh maanay koi woh maane
Ek khalk mein shamil karta hai
Ek sab se akela rehta hai
Hain dono teray mastaanay
Koi yeh maanay koi woh maane
sab hain jab aashiq tumhare naam ke
kyon yeh jhagre hain raheem-o-raam ke
Dehr mein tu, Haram mein tu
Dehr mein tu, Haram mein tu
Arsh pe tu, jameen pe tu
Dehr mein tu, Haram mein tu
Arsh pe tu, jameen pe tu
Jiss ki puhanch jahan talak
Uss ke liye wahin pe tu
Har ek rang mein yakta ho
Tum ek gorakh dhandha ho
Markaz-e-Justajoo, Alam-e-rang-o-boo
Dam badam jalwagar tu hi tu chaar soo
Hoo ke mahol mein, kuch nahin fi-la-hoo
Tum buhat dil ruba, Tum buhat khubaroo
Aarsh ki azmatein, Farsh ki abroo
Tum ho konain ka, hasil-e-arzoo
Aankh ne kar liya aansoo-on se wazoo
Ab to kar do ata deed ka ek sudoo
Aao parde se tum aankh ke rubaroo
Chund lamhe milan, do ghari guftagoo
Naaz jabta phiray, jabaja koo-ba-koo
Wahda-hoo Wahda-hoo
La-shareek-a-La-hoo
Allah hoo Allah hoo
Allah hoo Allah hoo
Allah hoo Allah hoo Allah hoo
Allah hoo Allah hoo Allah hoo
Tumhari Deed Ki Khatir Kahan Kahan puhancha
Ghareeb mit gaye, Pamaal ho gaye lekin
Kissi talak na tera aaj tak nishan puhancha
Ho bhi nahin aur...
Ho bhi nahin aur har jaa ho
Tum Ek Gorakh dhandha ho...
Nit naye naqsh banatay ho mita dete ho
Jaane kis jurm-e-tamana ki saza dete ho
Kabhi kankar ko bana dete ho heeray ki kani
Kabhi heeron ko bhi mitti mein mila dete ho
Jindagi kitnay hi murdon ko ata ki jiss ne
Woh maseeha bhi saleebon pe saja dete ho
Khwahish-e-deed jo kar baithe sar-e-toor koi
Toor hi bark-e-tajalli se jala dete ho
Naar-e-namrood mein dalwatay hu khud apna khaleel
Khud hi phir naar ko gulzaar bana dete ho
Chahe kinaan mein phainko kabhi mahe in aan
Noor yakuub ki aankhon ka bujha dete ho
Becho yusuf ko kabhi misr ke baazaaron mein
Akhir-e-kaar shah-e-misr bana dete ho
Jazb-o-masti ki jo manzil pe puhanchta hai koi
Baith kar dil mein an-al-haq ki sada dete ho
Khud hi lagwatay ho phir kufr ke fatway uss par
Khud hi mansoor ko sooli pe charha dete ho
Apni hasti bhi woh ik roz ganwa baithta hai
Apne darshan ki lagan jis ko laga dete ho
Koi raanjha jo kabhi khoj mein nilklay tumkar
Tum ussay jhang ke bele mein rula deta ho
Justajoo le ke tumhari jo chale kais koi
Uss ko majnoon kissi laila ka bana dete ho
Jot sassi ke agar mann mein tumhari jaagay
Tum usse tapte huay thal mein jala dete ho
Sohni gar tum ko mahiwal tasawwur kar le
Uss ko biphri hui lehron mein baha dete ho
Khud jo chaaho to sar-e-arsh bula kar mehboob
Ek hi raat mein mairaaj kara dete ho
Aap hi apna parda ho
Aap hi apna pardaa ho
Tum ek gorakh dhandha ho
Jo kehta hoon maana, tumhein lagta hai bura sa
Phir bhi hai mujhe tum se baharhaal gila sa
Chup chaap rahe dekthe tum Arsh-e-Bareen par
Tapte huay karbal mein Muhammad ka nawasa
Kiss tarhe pilata tha lahoo apna wafa ko
Khud teen dinon se wo agarche tha piyasa
Dushman to bahar taur thay dushman magar afsos
Tum ne bhi faraham na kiya paani zara sa
Har zulm ki taufeeq hai zalim ki wirasat
Mazloom ke hissay mein tassali na dilasa
Kal taaj saja dekha tha jiss shakhs ke sar par
Hai aaj ussi shakhs ke hathon mein hikasa
Yeh kya hai agar poochoon to kehte ho jawaban
Iss raaz se ho sakta nahin koi shanasa
Hairat ki ek duniya ho
Hairat ki ek duniya ho
Tum ek gorakh dhandha ho
Har ek jaa pe ho lekin pata nahin maaloom
Tumhara naam suna hai nishaan nahin maaloom
Dil se arman jo nikal jaaye to jugnoon ho jaye
Aur aankhon mein simat aaye to aansoo ho jaye
Japeya huu ka jo be huu kare huu mein kho kar
Uss ko sultaniyan mil jayen wo ba huu jo jaye
Baal beeka na kissi ka ho churri ke neeche
Halk-e-asghar mein kabhi teer tarazoo ho jaye
Kiss kadar be-niyaz ho tum bhi
Daastaan-e-daraaz ho tum bhi
Aah-e-Tehkeek mein har gam pe uljhan dekhoon
Wohi haalat-o-khayalat mein an ban dekhoon
Ban ke reh jaata hoon tasweer pareshani ki
Ghaur se jab bhi kabhi duniya ka darpan dekhoon
Ek hi khaak pe fitrat ke tazaadat itnay
Kitnay hisson mein bata ek hi aangan dekhoon
Kahin zehmat ki sulagti hui patjhar ka samaan
Kahin rehmat ke baraste huay sawan dekhoon
Kahin phunkaarte darya, kahin khamosh pahaar
Kahin jangal, kahin sehra, kahin gulshan dekhoon
Khun rulata hai yeh takseem ka andaaz mujhe
Koi dhanwaan yehan par koi nirdhan dekhoon
Din ke haathon mein faqat ek sulagta sooraj
Raat ki maang sitaron se muzzayyan dekhoon
Kahin murjhaaye huay phool hain sacchai ke
Aur kahin jhoot ke kaanton pe bhi joban dekhoon
Shams ki kaal kahin khichti nazar aati hai
Kahin sarmad ki uttarti hui gardan dekhoon
Raat kya shai hai saweera kya hai
Yeh ujala yeh andhera kya hai
Mein bhi nayib hun tumhara akhir
Kyon yeh kehte ho ke tera kya hai
Dekhne wala tujhe kya dekhta
Tu ne har har samt se parda kiya
Masjid Mandir...
Masjid, Mandir, Yeh Maikhane
Koi yeh maane, koi woh maane
Masjid, Mandir, Yeh Maikhane
Koi yeh maane, koi woh maane
Sab tere hain jaana aashanay
Koi yeh maane, koi woh maane
Ek honay ka tere kaayil hai
Inkaar pe koi maayil hai
Asleeyat lekin tu jaane
Koi Yeh maanay koi woh maane
Ek khalk mein shamil karta hai
Ek sab se akela rehta hai
Hain dono teray mastaanay
Koi yeh maanay koi woh maane
sab hain jab aashiq tumhare naam ke
kyon yeh jhagre hain raheem-o-raam ke
Dehr mein tu, Haram mein tu
Dehr mein tu, Haram mein tu
Arsh pe tu, jameen pe tu
Dehr mein tu, Haram mein tu
Arsh pe tu, jameen pe tu
Jiss ki puhanch jahan talak
Uss ke liye wahin pe tu
Har ek rang mein yakta ho
Tum ek gorakh dhandha ho
Markaz-e-Justajoo, Alam-e-rang-o-boo
Dam badam jalwagar tu hi tu chaar soo
Hoo ke mahol mein, kuch nahin fi-la-hoo
Tum buhat dil ruba, Tum buhat khubaroo
Aarsh ki azmatein, Farsh ki abroo
Tum ho konain ka, hasil-e-arzoo
Aankh ne kar liya aansoo-on se wazoo
Ab to kar do ata deed ka ek sudoo
Aao parde se tum aankh ke rubaroo
Chund lamhe milan, do ghari guftagoo
Naaz jabta phiray, jabaja koo-ba-koo
Wahda-hoo Wahda-hoo
La-shareek-a-La-hoo
Allah hoo Allah hoo
Allah hoo Allah hoo
Allah hoo Allah hoo Allah hoo
Allah hoo Allah hoo Allah hoo
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Sorry, You can put the blame on me!
As life goes on I'm starting to learn more and more about responsibility
And I realize that everything I do is affecting the people around me
So I want to take this time out to apologize for things that
I've done things that haven't occurred yet
and things that they don't want to take responsibility for
I'm sorry for the times that I left you home
I was on the road and you were alone
I'm sorry for the times that I had to go
I'm sorry for the fact that I did not know
That you were sitting home just wishing we
Could go back to when it was just you and me
I'm sorry for the times I would neglect
I'm sorry for the times I disrespect
I'm sorry for the wrong things that I've done
I'm sorry I'm not always there for my sons
I'm sorry for the fact that I'm not aware
That you can't sleep at night when I am not there
Because I'm in the streets like everyday
I'm sorry for the things that I did not say
Like how you are the best thing in my world
And how I'm so proud to call you my girl
I understand that there's some problems
And I'm not too blind to know
All the pain you kept inside you
Even though you might not show
If I can't apologize for being wrong
Then it's just a shame on me
I'll be the reason for your pain
And you can put the blame on me
You can put the blame on me (4x)
Said you can put the blame on me (3x)
You can put the blame on me
I'm sorry for the things that he put you through
And all the times you didn't know what to do
I'm sorry that you had to go and sell those bags
Just trying to stay busy until you heard from dad
When you would rather be home with all your kids
As one big family with love and bliss
And even though pops treated us like kings
He got a second wife and you didn't agree
He got up and left you there all alone
I'm sorry that you had to do it on your own
I'm sorry that I went and added to your grief
I'm sorry that your son was once a thief
I'm sorry that I grew up way to fast
I wish I would of listened and not be so bad
I'm sorry that your life turned out this way
I'm sorry that the feds came and took me away
I understand that there's some problems
And I'm not too blind to know
All the pain you kept inside you
Even though you might not show
If I can't apologize for being wrong
Then it's just a shame on me
I'll be the reason for your pain
And you can put the blame on me
Said you can put the blame on me
Said you can put the blame on me
Said you can put the blame on me
You can put the blame on me
I'm sorry that it took so long to see
But they were dead wrong trying to put it on me
I'm sorry that it took so long to speak
But I was on tour with Gwen Stefani
I'm sorry for the hand that she was dealt
And for the embarrassment that she felt
She's just a little young girl trying to have fun
But daddy should of never let her out that young
I'm sorry for Club Zen getting shut down
I hope they manage better next time around
How was I to know she was underage
In a 21 and older club they say
Why doesn't anybody want to take blame
Verizon backed out disgracing my name
I'm just a singer trying to entertain
Because I love my fans I'll take that blame
Even though the blame's on you
Even though the blame's on you
Even though the blame's on you
I'll take that blame from you
And you can put that blame on me
And you can put that blame on me
You can put that blame on me
You can put that blame on me
And you can put that blame on me
And you can put that blame on me
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Einstein’s Secret to Amazing Problem Solving (and 10 Specific Ways You Can Use It)
Einstein is quoted as having said that if he had one hour to save the world he would spend fifty-five minutes defining the problem and only five minutes finding the solution.
This quote does illustrate an important point: before jumping right into solving a problem, we should step back and invest time and effort to improve our understanding of it. Here are 10 strategies you can use to see problems from many different perspectives and master what is the most important step in problem solving: clearly defining the problem in the first place!
The Problem Is To Know What the Problem Is
The definition of the problem will be the focal point of all your problem-solving efforts. As such, it makes sense to devote as much attention and dedication to problem definition as possible. What usually happens is that as soon as we have a problem to work on we’re so eager to get to solutions that we neglect spending any time refining it.
What most of us don’t realize — and what supposedly Einstein might have been alluding to — is that the quality of the solutions we come up with will be in direct proportion to the quality of the description of the problem we’re trying to solve. Not only will your solutions be more abundant and of higher quality, but they’ll be achieved much, much more easily. Most importantly, you’ll have the confidence to be tackling a worthwhile problem.
Problem Definition Tools and Strategies
The good news is that getting different perspectives and angles in order to clearly define a problem is a skill that can be learned and developed. As such, there are many strategies you can use to perfect it. Here are the 10 most effective ones I know.
1. Rephrase the Problem
When a Toyota executive asked employees to brainstorm “ways to increase their productivity”, all he got back were blank stares. When he rephrased his request as “ways to make their jobs easier”, he could barely keep up with the amount of suggestions.
Words carry strong implicit meaning and, as such, play a major role in how we perceive a problem. In the example above, ‘be productive’ might seem like a sacrifice you’re doing for the company, while ‘make your job easier’ may be more like something you’re doing for your own benefit, but from which the company also benefits. In the end, the problem is still the same, but the feelings — and the points of view — associated with each of them are vastly different.
Play freely with the problem statement, rewording it several times. For a methodic approach, take single words and substitute variations. ‘Increase sales’? Try replacing ‘increase’ with ‘attract’, ‘develop’, ‘extend’, ‘repeat’ and see how your perception of the problem changes. A rich vocabulary plays an important role here, so you may want to use a thesaurus or develop your vocabulary.
2. Expose and Challenge Assumptions
Every problem — no matter how apparently simple it may be — comes with a long list of assumptions attached. Many of these assumptions may be inaccurate and could make your problem statement inadequate or even misguided.
The first step to get rid of bad assumptions is to make them explicit. Write a list and expose as many assumptions as you can — especially those that may seem the most obvious and ‘untouchable’.
That, in itself, brings more clarity to the problem at hand. But go further and test each assumption for validity: think in ways that they might not be valid and their consequences. What you will find may surprise you: that many of those bad assumptions are self-imposed — with just a bit of scrutiny you are able to safely drop them.
For example, suppose you’re about to enter the restaurant business. One of your assumptions might be ‘restaurants have a menu’. While such an assumption may seem true at first, try challenging it and maybe you’ll find some very interesting business models (such as one restaurant in which customers bring dish ideas for the chef to cook, for example).
3. Chunk Up
Each problem is a small piece of a greater problem. In the same way that you can explore a problem laterally — such as by playing with words or challenging assumptions — you can also explore it at different “altitudes”.
If you feel you’re overwhelmed with details or looking at a problem too narrowly, look at it from a more general perspective. In order to make your problem more general, ask questions such as: “What’s this a part of?”, “What’s this an example of?” or “What’s the intention behind this?”.
For a detailed explanation of how this principle works, check the article Boost Your Brainstorm Effectiveness with the Why Habit.
Another approach that helps a lot in getting a more general view of a problem is replacing words in the problem statement with hypernyms. Hypernyms are words that have a broader meaning than the given word. (For example, a hypernym of ‘car’ is ‘vehicle’). A great, free tool for finding hypernyms for a given word is WordNet (just search for a word and click on the ‘S:’ label before the word definitions).
4. Chunk Down
If each problem is part of a greater problem, it also means that each problem is composed of many smaller problems. It turns out that decomposing a problem in many smaller problems — each of them more specific than the original — can also provide greater insights about it.
‘Chunking the problem down’ (making it more specific) is especially useful if you find the problem overwhelming or daunting.
Some of the typical questions you can ask to make a problem more specific are: “What are parts of this?” or “What are examples of this?”.
Just as in ‘chunking up’, word substitution can also come to great use here. The class of words that are useful here are hyponyms: words that are stricter in meaning than the given one. (E.g. two hyponyms of ‘car’ are ‘minivan’ and ‘limousine’). WordNet can also help you finding hyponyms.
5. Find Multiple Perspectives
Before rushing to solve a problem, always make sure you look at it from different perspectives. Looking at it with different eyes is a great way to have instant insight on new, overlooked directions.
For example, if you own a business and are trying to ‘increase sales’, try to view this problem from the point of view of, say, a customer. For example, from the customer’s viewpoint, this may be a matter of adding features to your product that one would be willing to pay more for.
Rewrite your problem statement many times, each time using one of these different perspectives. How would your competition see this problem? Your employees? Your mom?
Also, imagine how people in various roles would frame the problem. How would a politician see it? A college professor? A nun? Try to find the differences and similarities on how the different roles would deal with your problem.
6. Use Effective Language Constructs
There isn’t a one-size-fits-all formula for properly crafting the perfect problem statement, but there are some language constructs that always help making it more effective:
Assume a myriad of solutions. An excellent way to start a problem statement is: “In what ways might I…”. This expression is much superior to “How can I…” as it hints that there’s a multitude of solutions, and not just one — or maybe none. As simple as this sounds, the feeling of expectancy helps your brain find solutions.
Make it positive. Negative sentences require a lot more cognitive power to process and may slow you down — or even derail your train of thought. Positive statements also help you find the real goal behind the problem and, as such, are much more motivating.
For example: instead of finding ways to ‘quit smoking’, you may find that ‘increase your energy’, ‘live longer’ and others are much more worthwhile goals.
Frame your problem in the form of a question. Our brain loves questions. If the question is powerful and engaging, our brains will do everything within their reach to answer it. We just can’t help it: Our brains will start working on the problem immediately and keep working in the background, even when we’re not aware of it.
If you’re still stuck, consider using the following formula for phrasing your problem statement:
“In what ways (action) (object) (qualifier) (end result)?”
Example: In what ways might I package (action) my book (object) more attractively (qualifier) so people will buy more of it (end result)?
7. Make It Engaging
In addition to using effective language constructs, it’s important to come up with a problem statement that truly excites you so you’re in the best frame of mind for creatively tackling the problem. If the problem looks too dull for you, invest the time adding vigor to it while still keeping it genuine. Make it enticing. Your brain will thank (and reward) you later.
One thing is to ‘increase sales’ (boring), another one is ‘wow your customers’. One thing is ‘to create a personal development blog’, another completely different is to ‘empower readers to live fully’.
8. Reverse the Problem
One trick that usually helps when you’re stuck with a problem is turning it on its head.
If you want to win, find out what would make you lose. If you are struggling finding ways to ‘increase sales’, find ways to decrease them instead. Then, all you need to do is reverse your answers. ‘Make more sales calls’ may seem an evident way of increasing sales, but sometimes we only see these ‘obvious’ answers when we look at the problem from an opposite direction.
This seemingly convoluted method may not seem intuitive at first, but turning a problem on its head can uncover rather obvious solutions to the original problem.
9. Gather Facts
Investigate causes and circumstances of the problem. Probe details about it — such as its origins and causes. Especially if you have a problem that’s too vague, investigating facts is usually more productive than trying to solve it right away.
If, for example, the problem stated by your spouse is “You never listen to me”, the solution is not obvious. However, if the statement is “You don’t make enough eye contact when I’m talking to you,” then the solution is obvious and you can skip brainstorming altogether. (You’ll still need to work on the implementation, though!)
Ask yourself questions about the problem. What is not known about it? Can you draw a diagram of the problem? What are the problem boundaries? Be curious. Ask questions and gather facts. It is said that a well-defined problem is halfway to being solved: I would add that a perfectly-defined problem is not a problem anymore.
10. Problem-Solve Your Problem Statement
I know I risk getting into an infinite loop here, but as you may have noticed, getting the right perspective of a problem is, well, a problem in itself. As such, feel free to use any creative thinking technique you know to help. There are plenty to choose from:
You may want to give yourself an Idea Quota of problem statements. Or write a List of 100 problems to solve. SCAMPER your problem definition. These are just some of dozen techniques you can try.
Of course, how much effort you invest in defining the problem in contrast to how much effort you invest in solving your actual problem is a hard balance to achieve, though one which is attainable with practice.
Personally, I don’t think that 55 minutes of defining a problem versus 5 minutes acting on it is usually a good proportion. The point is that we must be aware of how important problem defining is and correct our tendency to spend too little time on it.
In fact, when you start paying more attention to how you define your problems, you’ll probably find that it is usually much harder than solving them. But you’ll also find that the payoff is well worth the effort.
References:
Einstein’s Portrait: Yousuf Karsh.
Einstein’s Quote: Cracking Creativity.
This quote does illustrate an important point: before jumping right into solving a problem, we should step back and invest time and effort to improve our understanding of it. Here are 10 strategies you can use to see problems from many different perspectives and master what is the most important step in problem solving: clearly defining the problem in the first place!
The Problem Is To Know What the Problem Is
The definition of the problem will be the focal point of all your problem-solving efforts. As such, it makes sense to devote as much attention and dedication to problem definition as possible. What usually happens is that as soon as we have a problem to work on we’re so eager to get to solutions that we neglect spending any time refining it.
What most of us don’t realize — and what supposedly Einstein might have been alluding to — is that the quality of the solutions we come up with will be in direct proportion to the quality of the description of the problem we’re trying to solve. Not only will your solutions be more abundant and of higher quality, but they’ll be achieved much, much more easily. Most importantly, you’ll have the confidence to be tackling a worthwhile problem.
Problem Definition Tools and Strategies
The good news is that getting different perspectives and angles in order to clearly define a problem is a skill that can be learned and developed. As such, there are many strategies you can use to perfect it. Here are the 10 most effective ones I know.
1. Rephrase the Problem
When a Toyota executive asked employees to brainstorm “ways to increase their productivity”, all he got back were blank stares. When he rephrased his request as “ways to make their jobs easier”, he could barely keep up with the amount of suggestions.
Words carry strong implicit meaning and, as such, play a major role in how we perceive a problem. In the example above, ‘be productive’ might seem like a sacrifice you’re doing for the company, while ‘make your job easier’ may be more like something you’re doing for your own benefit, but from which the company also benefits. In the end, the problem is still the same, but the feelings — and the points of view — associated with each of them are vastly different.
Play freely with the problem statement, rewording it several times. For a methodic approach, take single words and substitute variations. ‘Increase sales’? Try replacing ‘increase’ with ‘attract’, ‘develop’, ‘extend’, ‘repeat’ and see how your perception of the problem changes. A rich vocabulary plays an important role here, so you may want to use a thesaurus or develop your vocabulary.
2. Expose and Challenge Assumptions
Every problem — no matter how apparently simple it may be — comes with a long list of assumptions attached. Many of these assumptions may be inaccurate and could make your problem statement inadequate or even misguided.
The first step to get rid of bad assumptions is to make them explicit. Write a list and expose as many assumptions as you can — especially those that may seem the most obvious and ‘untouchable’.
That, in itself, brings more clarity to the problem at hand. But go further and test each assumption for validity: think in ways that they might not be valid and their consequences. What you will find may surprise you: that many of those bad assumptions are self-imposed — with just a bit of scrutiny you are able to safely drop them.
For example, suppose you’re about to enter the restaurant business. One of your assumptions might be ‘restaurants have a menu’. While such an assumption may seem true at first, try challenging it and maybe you’ll find some very interesting business models (such as one restaurant in which customers bring dish ideas for the chef to cook, for example).
3. Chunk Up
Each problem is a small piece of a greater problem. In the same way that you can explore a problem laterally — such as by playing with words or challenging assumptions — you can also explore it at different “altitudes”.
If you feel you’re overwhelmed with details or looking at a problem too narrowly, look at it from a more general perspective. In order to make your problem more general, ask questions such as: “What’s this a part of?”, “What’s this an example of?” or “What’s the intention behind this?”.
For a detailed explanation of how this principle works, check the article Boost Your Brainstorm Effectiveness with the Why Habit.
Another approach that helps a lot in getting a more general view of a problem is replacing words in the problem statement with hypernyms. Hypernyms are words that have a broader meaning than the given word. (For example, a hypernym of ‘car’ is ‘vehicle’). A great, free tool for finding hypernyms for a given word is WordNet (just search for a word and click on the ‘S:’ label before the word definitions).
4. Chunk Down
If each problem is part of a greater problem, it also means that each problem is composed of many smaller problems. It turns out that decomposing a problem in many smaller problems — each of them more specific than the original — can also provide greater insights about it.
‘Chunking the problem down’ (making it more specific) is especially useful if you find the problem overwhelming or daunting.
Some of the typical questions you can ask to make a problem more specific are: “What are parts of this?” or “What are examples of this?”.
Just as in ‘chunking up’, word substitution can also come to great use here. The class of words that are useful here are hyponyms: words that are stricter in meaning than the given one. (E.g. two hyponyms of ‘car’ are ‘minivan’ and ‘limousine’). WordNet can also help you finding hyponyms.
5. Find Multiple Perspectives
Before rushing to solve a problem, always make sure you look at it from different perspectives. Looking at it with different eyes is a great way to have instant insight on new, overlooked directions.
For example, if you own a business and are trying to ‘increase sales’, try to view this problem from the point of view of, say, a customer. For example, from the customer’s viewpoint, this may be a matter of adding features to your product that one would be willing to pay more for.
Rewrite your problem statement many times, each time using one of these different perspectives. How would your competition see this problem? Your employees? Your mom?
Also, imagine how people in various roles would frame the problem. How would a politician see it? A college professor? A nun? Try to find the differences and similarities on how the different roles would deal with your problem.
6. Use Effective Language Constructs
There isn’t a one-size-fits-all formula for properly crafting the perfect problem statement, but there are some language constructs that always help making it more effective:
Assume a myriad of solutions. An excellent way to start a problem statement is: “In what ways might I…”. This expression is much superior to “How can I…” as it hints that there’s a multitude of solutions, and not just one — or maybe none. As simple as this sounds, the feeling of expectancy helps your brain find solutions.
Make it positive. Negative sentences require a lot more cognitive power to process and may slow you down — or even derail your train of thought. Positive statements also help you find the real goal behind the problem and, as such, are much more motivating.
For example: instead of finding ways to ‘quit smoking’, you may find that ‘increase your energy’, ‘live longer’ and others are much more worthwhile goals.
Frame your problem in the form of a question. Our brain loves questions. If the question is powerful and engaging, our brains will do everything within their reach to answer it. We just can’t help it: Our brains will start working on the problem immediately and keep working in the background, even when we’re not aware of it.
If you’re still stuck, consider using the following formula for phrasing your problem statement:
“In what ways (action) (object) (qualifier) (end result)?”
Example: In what ways might I package (action) my book (object) more attractively (qualifier) so people will buy more of it (end result)?
7. Make It Engaging
In addition to using effective language constructs, it’s important to come up with a problem statement that truly excites you so you’re in the best frame of mind for creatively tackling the problem. If the problem looks too dull for you, invest the time adding vigor to it while still keeping it genuine. Make it enticing. Your brain will thank (and reward) you later.
One thing is to ‘increase sales’ (boring), another one is ‘wow your customers’. One thing is ‘to create a personal development blog’, another completely different is to ‘empower readers to live fully’.
8. Reverse the Problem
One trick that usually helps when you’re stuck with a problem is turning it on its head.
If you want to win, find out what would make you lose. If you are struggling finding ways to ‘increase sales’, find ways to decrease them instead. Then, all you need to do is reverse your answers. ‘Make more sales calls’ may seem an evident way of increasing sales, but sometimes we only see these ‘obvious’ answers when we look at the problem from an opposite direction.
This seemingly convoluted method may not seem intuitive at first, but turning a problem on its head can uncover rather obvious solutions to the original problem.
9. Gather Facts
Investigate causes and circumstances of the problem. Probe details about it — such as its origins and causes. Especially if you have a problem that’s too vague, investigating facts is usually more productive than trying to solve it right away.
If, for example, the problem stated by your spouse is “You never listen to me”, the solution is not obvious. However, if the statement is “You don’t make enough eye contact when I’m talking to you,” then the solution is obvious and you can skip brainstorming altogether. (You’ll still need to work on the implementation, though!)
Ask yourself questions about the problem. What is not known about it? Can you draw a diagram of the problem? What are the problem boundaries? Be curious. Ask questions and gather facts. It is said that a well-defined problem is halfway to being solved: I would add that a perfectly-defined problem is not a problem anymore.
10. Problem-Solve Your Problem Statement
I know I risk getting into an infinite loop here, but as you may have noticed, getting the right perspective of a problem is, well, a problem in itself. As such, feel free to use any creative thinking technique you know to help. There are plenty to choose from:
You may want to give yourself an Idea Quota of problem statements. Or write a List of 100 problems to solve. SCAMPER your problem definition. These are just some of dozen techniques you can try.
Of course, how much effort you invest in defining the problem in contrast to how much effort you invest in solving your actual problem is a hard balance to achieve, though one which is attainable with practice.
Personally, I don’t think that 55 minutes of defining a problem versus 5 minutes acting on it is usually a good proportion. The point is that we must be aware of how important problem defining is and correct our tendency to spend too little time on it.
In fact, when you start paying more attention to how you define your problems, you’ll probably find that it is usually much harder than solving them. But you’ll also find that the payoff is well worth the effort.
References:
Einstein’s Portrait: Yousuf Karsh.
Einstein’s Quote: Cracking Creativity.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Pain Is Unavoidable, Suffering Is Optional
If you’ve never, ever been hurt in your entire life, raise your hand. And leave this blog ASAP, because the following article is not for you. It’s for all the people who got hurt at some point in their lives. And who suffered because of that.
Suffering and pain are tied together in our minds. One is giving birth to the other. They’re like a single, osmotic being. Every time we get hurt, we suffer. And every time we suffer we create more hurt. It’s difficult to even talk about pain and suffering in a detached way, this is how deep they are buried in our subconscious mind. The mere act of reading about pain and suffering is making your brain reconnect with those feelings in this very moment.
Do you remember how you felt last time you experienced pain? What were the exact feelings? Frustration? Sorrow? Despair? Defeat? What were the words you used to describe it? Suffering? Affliction? Trauma? Grief?
Pain is one of the most avoided situations in our life. We run away from pain. We’re trying to escape the pain. To mask it, to hide from it, to cover it in superfluous, temporary indulgences. We can’t stand it. Because we don’t want to suffer.
Why Do We Suffer?
Pain is external. It’s created by things out of our control. We’ve just been hit by something. The same way we get hit by happiness, sometimes. Only this time it hurts.
Suffering is internal. It gets triggered by our own feelings and perceptions of the pain. We’re interpreting the pain in a certain way. Most of the time by resisting it.
Pain is generated by loss. Loss of confidence, loss of affection, loss of hope. Every time you get disappointed, you’re losing a dream. And it hurts. We lose things we were attached to and the main body reacts: I want that part of me back. And we get this signal under the form of pain.
Suffering, on the other part, is the attachment for what we lose. The higher the attachment, the stronger the signal we receive. Pain becomes bigger and bigger.
But, believe it or not, losing parts of ourselves is natural. This is how we grow. By losing parts of ourselves. We lose our childish body and become adults. We lose our ignorance and become knowledgeable. We lose our inhibitions and become free. Every time we lose something, we’re forced to put something in its place. We create something new. We become something new.
Our loss is the trigger for evolution. We replace the tears with something we crafted. This is how we become a new being. Most of the time a better one. Because now we know what it takes to re-create that part of our Universe.
They say you grow stronger through pain than through happiness. And that’s true. You grow faster when you have all that work to do. When you lose all your dreams and hopes, you have to get to work. Fill in the gaps. Make sure life doesn’t flow away through all those holes. Be there. Do things.
I’m not making the apology of pain as the ultimate evolutionary tool. I’m human just like you and I get hurt just like you. What I do try is to lower the suffering. Because suffering is not necessary. Pain, as hurtful as it gets, might be. But suffering is an internal artifact, a self-generated response which I have control over. I may not control pain, but I can control my own reaction to it.
By giving free way to suffering I accept to lose my energy. My whole power is hijacked by suffering. Instead of using it for creating something new on that crack, I crave for what was there before. I use my focus in a desperate attempt to freeze the Universe in the very second before the loss occurred. Like this would be possible…
I Am What I Do
Every time I get hurt, I try to see which part of me is detached. What am I losing? Is the affection of somebody? Is my confidence in somebody? Is something I took for granted but it proved to be as changeable as the whole Universe? Every loss I experience creates some pain. I know I cannot avoid it. But I also know I can create something new in that hurtful cavity of myself.
That pain is the signal I have work to do. If there’s somebody affection I lost, I start to love myself more. If there’s confidence in somebody I lost, I start to trust myself more often. If there’s something I took for granted, like when I’m disappointed by somebody, I start to make and keep new promises. All those tears are signs of unfinished work with myself.
It’s not about the other guys. The outside process of getting hurt is in fact a reflection of what’s going on inside. Blaming external conditions for my pain is just another form of suffering. The real process takes place inside.
Deep down, every pain is a pointer for something we avoided to do for a long time. We’re designed in such a way that we naturally experience growth, and most of the time we grow organically. But sometimes we get so attached that we cannot break up and grow further other than through violent actions. This is when pain occur. When we don’t want to grow anymore. At that point, a violent event blows away that part of our main body which is not necessary anymore. Forcing us to start covering it with something new, and, most important, better.
Most of my pain came in my relationships. I made bad choices. Several times. I got hurt and I’m still getting hurt. It’s nobody else’s fault. In fact, it’s nobody’s fault. It’s just a pointer that I have a lot of work to do in this area. And that work is about myself. It’s about trusting and opening. About accepting rejection, if that’s the case, and creating understanding. It’s about making peace with my own failures and my partner’s failures. About acceptance and freedom.
Desperately trying to tune out the pain by temporary indulgences won’t solve my relationships problem. The cavity will still be there until I start building something new over it.
And I’m building something new over it. I’m not making huge progress, but I’m sticking with it. Every single day.
Source: www.dragosroua.com/33-ways-to-get-and-keep-yourself-motivated
Suffering and pain are tied together in our minds. One is giving birth to the other. They’re like a single, osmotic being. Every time we get hurt, we suffer. And every time we suffer we create more hurt. It’s difficult to even talk about pain and suffering in a detached way, this is how deep they are buried in our subconscious mind. The mere act of reading about pain and suffering is making your brain reconnect with those feelings in this very moment.
Do you remember how you felt last time you experienced pain? What were the exact feelings? Frustration? Sorrow? Despair? Defeat? What were the words you used to describe it? Suffering? Affliction? Trauma? Grief?
Pain is one of the most avoided situations in our life. We run away from pain. We’re trying to escape the pain. To mask it, to hide from it, to cover it in superfluous, temporary indulgences. We can’t stand it. Because we don’t want to suffer.
Why Do We Suffer?
Pain is external. It’s created by things out of our control. We’ve just been hit by something. The same way we get hit by happiness, sometimes. Only this time it hurts.
Suffering is internal. It gets triggered by our own feelings and perceptions of the pain. We’re interpreting the pain in a certain way. Most of the time by resisting it.
Pain is generated by loss. Loss of confidence, loss of affection, loss of hope. Every time you get disappointed, you’re losing a dream. And it hurts. We lose things we were attached to and the main body reacts: I want that part of me back. And we get this signal under the form of pain.
Suffering, on the other part, is the attachment for what we lose. The higher the attachment, the stronger the signal we receive. Pain becomes bigger and bigger.
But, believe it or not, losing parts of ourselves is natural. This is how we grow. By losing parts of ourselves. We lose our childish body and become adults. We lose our ignorance and become knowledgeable. We lose our inhibitions and become free. Every time we lose something, we’re forced to put something in its place. We create something new. We become something new.
Our loss is the trigger for evolution. We replace the tears with something we crafted. This is how we become a new being. Most of the time a better one. Because now we know what it takes to re-create that part of our Universe.
They say you grow stronger through pain than through happiness. And that’s true. You grow faster when you have all that work to do. When you lose all your dreams and hopes, you have to get to work. Fill in the gaps. Make sure life doesn’t flow away through all those holes. Be there. Do things.
I’m not making the apology of pain as the ultimate evolutionary tool. I’m human just like you and I get hurt just like you. What I do try is to lower the suffering. Because suffering is not necessary. Pain, as hurtful as it gets, might be. But suffering is an internal artifact, a self-generated response which I have control over. I may not control pain, but I can control my own reaction to it.
By giving free way to suffering I accept to lose my energy. My whole power is hijacked by suffering. Instead of using it for creating something new on that crack, I crave for what was there before. I use my focus in a desperate attempt to freeze the Universe in the very second before the loss occurred. Like this would be possible…
I Am What I Do
Every time I get hurt, I try to see which part of me is detached. What am I losing? Is the affection of somebody? Is my confidence in somebody? Is something I took for granted but it proved to be as changeable as the whole Universe? Every loss I experience creates some pain. I know I cannot avoid it. But I also know I can create something new in that hurtful cavity of myself.
That pain is the signal I have work to do. If there’s somebody affection I lost, I start to love myself more. If there’s confidence in somebody I lost, I start to trust myself more often. If there’s something I took for granted, like when I’m disappointed by somebody, I start to make and keep new promises. All those tears are signs of unfinished work with myself.
It’s not about the other guys. The outside process of getting hurt is in fact a reflection of what’s going on inside. Blaming external conditions for my pain is just another form of suffering. The real process takes place inside.
Deep down, every pain is a pointer for something we avoided to do for a long time. We’re designed in such a way that we naturally experience growth, and most of the time we grow organically. But sometimes we get so attached that we cannot break up and grow further other than through violent actions. This is when pain occur. When we don’t want to grow anymore. At that point, a violent event blows away that part of our main body which is not necessary anymore. Forcing us to start covering it with something new, and, most important, better.
Most of my pain came in my relationships. I made bad choices. Several times. I got hurt and I’m still getting hurt. It’s nobody else’s fault. In fact, it’s nobody’s fault. It’s just a pointer that I have a lot of work to do in this area. And that work is about myself. It’s about trusting and opening. About accepting rejection, if that’s the case, and creating understanding. It’s about making peace with my own failures and my partner’s failures. About acceptance and freedom.
Desperately trying to tune out the pain by temporary indulgences won’t solve my relationships problem. The cavity will still be there until I start building something new over it.
And I’m building something new over it. I’m not making huge progress, but I’m sticking with it. Every single day.
Source: www.dragosroua.com/33-ways-to-get-and-keep-yourself-motivated
Friday, July 31, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Avoid Negative Thinking - Choose to be Positive
Negative self-talk is a destructive habit and part of an essential defense mechanism that we often develop to protect ourselves. Many people end up talking themselves out of actions that may be scary or uncomfortable. "I can't do this" is really just a way of saying "I don't want to deal with the experience of doing this." We are all strongly influenced by our feelings, often determining how and what action we ultimately take. If the feeling is uncomfortable, negative self-talk results; then we often decide not to take any action at all.
Many people assume that if a past experience produced a certain result, there is nothing they can do to change that experience in order to produce a different result. "I've tried every diet there is. I know what I should do; I just can't do it."
Please understand that you can make the choice not to repeat old patterns of eating, non-exercise, and negative thinking. You have the ability to choose the emotions you have. If you don't like feeling guilty, frustrated, or doubtful, you can choose not to. You, and no one else, must decide what is comfortable for you. In order to become successful at making healthy choices, you must avoid negative self-talk and start practicing positive thinking.
Positive or negative self-talk plays a big part in your decisions. Be on the "look-out for negative self-talk and notice how it influences your choices; notice how it can negatively affect your efforts to change. For example, perhaps you've just returned from a week's vacation where you took a break from exercise and low-fat eating. You tell yourself, "I feel so fat. I'm back where I started." You feel guilty and frustrated. "I don't have enough will-power to start all over again. Maybe I'm just meant to be overweight." Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged, you give up.
First, reflect on the feelings you had before you decided to give up. You basically told yourself that the healthy habits you learned before your vacation were all for nothing and that you have to start over. Ask yourself if these feelings are reasonable. Are you really back to ground zero? Of course not. You accepted change and developed a new way of living; these skills are yours forever. The vacation might even have done you some good: everyone needs a break sometimes. Otherwise, you might have felt deprived and not really enjoyed yourself. It's time now to tell yourself: "It felt good eating whatever I wanted and taking a break from exercising; I had a great time. But now I'm going to focus back on the low-fat, active lifestyle I was enjoying before vacation. There is no reason to beat myself up; I'll just take it one day at a time." Now you can rethink your previous decision and take action that will move you forward towards more positive change.
As you begin to understand your reasons for negative self-talk, you'll find yourself recognizing it more and more quickly after it occurs. Eventually, as you practice, you'll be able to recognize and stop negative self-talk before it interferes with your decisions.
It is very important to practice positive thinking and to remind yourself that you're a worthwhile person whatever you do. Try to consistently acknowledge that you are making positive changes to improve your health. You should be proud of yourself. Visualize yourself as capable, happy, and confident. These positive feelings will help the process of change. Remember, there are bound to be times when you're feeling frustrated or depressed. Positive thinkers know that these feelings are valid, and they don't try to ignore them. Positive thinkers acknowledge and try to understand them, but they don't blame themselves for the conditions that lead to these feelings. Good luck, stay positive, and enjoy all the wonderful benefits of a healthy lifestyle! [By Chad Tackett]
Many people assume that if a past experience produced a certain result, there is nothing they can do to change that experience in order to produce a different result. "I've tried every diet there is. I know what I should do; I just can't do it."
Please understand that you can make the choice not to repeat old patterns of eating, non-exercise, and negative thinking. You have the ability to choose the emotions you have. If you don't like feeling guilty, frustrated, or doubtful, you can choose not to. You, and no one else, must decide what is comfortable for you. In order to become successful at making healthy choices, you must avoid negative self-talk and start practicing positive thinking.
Positive or negative self-talk plays a big part in your decisions. Be on the "look-out for negative self-talk and notice how it influences your choices; notice how it can negatively affect your efforts to change. For example, perhaps you've just returned from a week's vacation where you took a break from exercise and low-fat eating. You tell yourself, "I feel so fat. I'm back where I started." You feel guilty and frustrated. "I don't have enough will-power to start all over again. Maybe I'm just meant to be overweight." Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged, you give up.
First, reflect on the feelings you had before you decided to give up. You basically told yourself that the healthy habits you learned before your vacation were all for nothing and that you have to start over. Ask yourself if these feelings are reasonable. Are you really back to ground zero? Of course not. You accepted change and developed a new way of living; these skills are yours forever. The vacation might even have done you some good: everyone needs a break sometimes. Otherwise, you might have felt deprived and not really enjoyed yourself. It's time now to tell yourself: "It felt good eating whatever I wanted and taking a break from exercising; I had a great time. But now I'm going to focus back on the low-fat, active lifestyle I was enjoying before vacation. There is no reason to beat myself up; I'll just take it one day at a time." Now you can rethink your previous decision and take action that will move you forward towards more positive change.
As you begin to understand your reasons for negative self-talk, you'll find yourself recognizing it more and more quickly after it occurs. Eventually, as you practice, you'll be able to recognize and stop negative self-talk before it interferes with your decisions.
It is very important to practice positive thinking and to remind yourself that you're a worthwhile person whatever you do. Try to consistently acknowledge that you are making positive changes to improve your health. You should be proud of yourself. Visualize yourself as capable, happy, and confident. These positive feelings will help the process of change. Remember, there are bound to be times when you're feeling frustrated or depressed. Positive thinkers know that these feelings are valid, and they don't try to ignore them. Positive thinkers acknowledge and try to understand them, but they don't blame themselves for the conditions that lead to these feelings. Good luck, stay positive, and enjoy all the wonderful benefits of a healthy lifestyle! [By Chad Tackett]
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