Happy Friendship Day

At the end of Friendship Day, I want to share a nice quotations by Anais Nin

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
Friendship Day Quotes by: Walter Winchell

Few Cool Books on Friendship

2010 ka akhri din

This is my annual post, the last post of 2010. and here i will sum up, what happened in my life in that year and look ahead to what’s going to happen in 2011. I do this so I can have a handy record that I can get to in seconds.
First month of 2010 was not good, after the month of march that year starts bringing me alot of happiness, in my personal life as well as in my career. Thanks to ALLAH for each and everything.

Many days was very good, few days was bad. this year i got sick 4 times.
This Year, I read almost 52 great Informative books on Islam, Life, and Science.I learn alot from those books. and i have change my life too much, beacuse i have implemented 80% in my life, that i read from books. Books are the best friends of a person. I spend my free time with books.
This year i didnt watch Television. as compared to past years. Only 2% of my time of 2010 i sit infront of tv to watch it.
I spend alot of my time on internet, for reading articles and news all around the world.

This year was nice. and I pray ALLAH, the coming year 2011 bring alot of happiness for my loved one,family, and friends.and take away all our sorrows and problems from our life. Make us powerfull,happy and healthy,wealthy. and A good MUSLIMS as ALLAH says in QURAN. Ameen

tahammul aur burdbari

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Afou Dar Guzar

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yeah busy days.

mmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

nice days.
busy days.

gud life. and busy life.

:)

dayar-e-nur mein tera shabon ka sathi ho

dayar-e-nur mein tera shabon ka sathi ho
koi to ho jo meri wahshaton ka sathi ho

main us se jhuth bhi bolun to mujh se sach bole
mere mizaj k sab mosamon ka sathi ho

wo mere nam ki nisbat se motabar thehre
gali gali meri ruswaiyon ka sathi ho

main us k hath na aon wo mera ho k rahe
main gir parun to meri pastiyon ka sathi ho
wo khwab dekhe to dekhe mere hawale se
mere khayalon k sab manzaron ka sathi ho

chehry parha karo...

baaz auqat rukna bohot mushkil ho jata ha. aur baaz auqaat aagay chalna mushkil nahi na mumkin hota ha.

ye jo chehry hoty han inhen parha karo. dunia ki sab sa behatren kitab hoty han. kahi kitab ka getup umda hota ha, magar andar ki tehrer ghatiya hoti ha. kahi mamooli kaghzaat par aala darjy ki tehreer hoti ha.
kabi chehry ki tehrer bot waza ho kar b parny ko dil nai karta.
wo jany anjany me boohot andhery rasty par nikal ae ha. usay ye bhi nahi maloom k ye rasta band ha. kahi nahi jaata. aur me jab sa soch rahi hu k us ka kia ho ga.


kuch loog andhery me bhatakty huay bhi roshni ki tammanna zarur karty han. aur in ko in andhero se pyar hota ha. wo zindagi k in andhery ka ik hisssa ban chuky hoty han.





me waqt ko zaya nahi karti, waqt ne mujhy zaya kia ha.


me janti hu insan k hosly ko utna hi azmana chahiye jitna us me hosla ho, insan ko kisi unchi kursi par bitha dyna us ki izzat afzae nahi. us k sath zulm ha.

heart attack

I want to write few words from one of my prev. post: ".......Is kaainat main kub saare sawalon ke jawab milte hain. Koi formula nahi chalta. Kisi mantiq ki chul theek nahi bethti. Hum saari zindagi jaanne ki tag-o-do main lage rehte hain magar saara kuch is dil ke maanne se hai. Agar dil ko qarar aa jaaye to koi maujiza naqabile yaqeen nahi rehta. Kuch bhi namumkin nahi rehta. Falsafa chale na chale magar jo baat, jo cheez is dil ki dharkan ki ley(tune) se murtaish (vibrate) ho jaaye - wahi haq, wahi sach ! Sala ye kambakht dil !!.."



Pain was so severe that night, savage heart
wanted to confront each vein
diaphoresed from each sweat gland

(my heart was)
Like far at your patio
each petal washed in my despondent blood
appear morose with grace of moonlite glow

Like in my deserted body
tents of all aching threads openly
start giving signs serially (of)
farewell of (my) passions' flock

And when appeared somewhere under smoldering lites of remembrance
one last moment of your affection
pain was so intense that (heart) wanted to pass it on

We did want to stay though, heart did not desire so

Greatest Act

[2. Surah Al-Baqarah : Ayah 195]


And spend in the way of Allah and cast not yourselves to perdition with your own hands, and do good (to others); surely Allah loves the doers of good.




Greatest Act






[4.Surah An-Nisaa : Ayah 103]


"Then when you have finished the prayer, remember Allah standing and sitting and reclining; but when you are secure (from danger) keep up prayer."




[7.Surah Al-Araf : Ayah 205]

"And remember your Lord within yourself humbly and fearing and in a voice not loud in the morning and the evening and be not of the heedless ones."



[ 8.Surah Al-Anfal : Ayah 45]

"O you who believe! when you meet a party, then be firm, and remember Allah much, that you may be successful."



[13.Surah Ar-Ra'd : Ayah 27-28]

"Surely Allah makes him who will go astray, and guides to Himself those who turn (to Him). Those who believe and whose hearts are set at rest by the remembrance of Allah; now surely by Allah's remembrance are the hearts set at rest."



[20. Surah Taha : Ayah 14]

"Surely I am Allah, there is no god but 1, therefore serve Me and keep up prayer for My remembrance."





[29. Surah Al-Ankabut : Ayah 45]

"Certainly the remembrance of Allah is the greatest, and Allah knows what you do."






[33. Surah Al-Ahzab : Ayah 35,41-42]

"And the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember-- Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a mighty reward."


"O you who believe! remember Allah, remembering frequently, And glorify Him morning and evening."





[62. Surah Al-Juma : Ayah 10]

"Remember Allah much, that you may be successful."



[63. Surah Al-Munafiqun : Ayah 9]

"O you who believe! let not your wealth, or your children, divert you from the remembrance of Allah; and whoever does that, these are the losers."




[73. Surah Al-Muzzammil : Ayah 8]

"And remember the name of your Lord and devote yourself to Him with (exclusive) devotion."





[74. Surah Al-Muddathhir : Ayah 3]

"And your Lord do magnify."





[76. Surah Al-Insan : Ayah 25-26]

"And glorify the name of your Lord morning and evening. And during part of the night adore Him, and give glory to Him (a) long (part of the) night."





[94. Surah Al-Sharh : Ayah 7-8]

"So when you are free, nominate. And make your Lord your exclusive object."






[110. Surah Al-Nasr : Ayah 3]

"Then celebrate the praise of your Lord, and ask His forgiveness; surely He is oft-returning (to mercy)."




[Sahih Hadith: Volume 8, Book 75, Number 416]

Narrated 'Abu Musa (Radi Allah Anhu) : The Prophet Muhammad (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) said, "The example of the one who remembers (glorifies the Praises of his Lord) Allah in comparison to the one who does not remember (glorifies the Praises of his Lord) Allah, is that of a Living creature to a Dead one."

zindagi har roz class lyti ha

bara dushwar hota ha, zara sa Faisla karna, K Zindagi ki kahani ko, Biyan-o-bazabnko, kaha sa yad rakhna ha, kaha se bhol jana ha, kisy kitna batana ha, ki say kitna chupana ha, kaha hans hans k rona ha, kaha ro ro k hansna ha, kaha awaz daini ha, kaha khamosh rehna ha, kaha rasta badalna ha, kaha sy lot ana ha. bara dushwar hota ha, zara sa faisla karna.

بڑا دشوار ہوتا ہے

ذرا سا فیصلہ کرنا

کہ جیون کی کہانی کو

بیانِ بے زبانی کو

کہاں سے یاد رکھنا ہے

کہاں سے بھول جانا ہے

اِسے کتنا بتانا ہے

اِسے کتنا چھپانا ہے

کہاں رو رو کے ہنسنا ہے

کہاں ہنس ہنس کے رونا ہے

کہاں آواز دینی ہے

کہاں خاموش رہنا ہے

کہاں رَستہ بدلنا ہے

کہاں سے لوَٹ آنا ہے

(سلیم کوثر)

Definition of Care

Charge, oversight, or management, implying responsibility for safety and prosperity.

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Attention or heed; caution; regard; heedfulness; watchfulness; as, take care; have a care.

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The object of watchful attention or anxiety.

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To be anxious or solicitous; to be concerned; to have regard or interest; -- sometimes followed by an objective of measure.


Love begins by taking care of the closest ones - the ones at home.
Mother Teresa






care. what is the meanig of it?
is the meaning of care is same in all religions/cities/peoples/culture?

i think yes. this is same. but some people thinks that its different for different kind of people.

agar koi kisi ki help kary bagher kahy, ya help mangy koi kisi sa kabhi b, aur usay help mily. to us ki care ki us shakhs na jis na help ki. behaviour aur routine agar same rahy hamesha to wo care ho ge.maska nahi. agar badal jaey to maska.

Habib Jalib's Mainay Uss Say Yeh Kaha

میں نے اس سے یہ کہا



یہ جو دس کروڑ ہیں



جہل کا نچوڑ ہیں



ان کی فکر سو گئی



ہر امید کی کرن



ظلمتوں میں کھو گئی



یہ خبر درست ہے



ان کی موت ہوگئی



بے شعور لوگ ہیں



زندگی کا روگ ہیں



اور تیرے پاس ہے



ان کے درد کی دوا





حبیب جالب کی یہ نظم کچھ حسبِ موقع لگی ہے۔

Jawab-e-Shikwah by Allama Iqbal

dil ko cho jany wala shikwa aur jawab e shikwa. agar dil sa suno to ankhen pur num ho jaen. jasy me rony lagi thi ye sun kar.
i wish i could be a gud muslim. as ALLAH want me.

Maut

Dil ki dhadkan hai ya goliyon ka shor hai
Faasle ho jaaye na nazdeek
Aa jaa mila le dil jala le
Zindagi ko na jaane milegi yeh naseeb
Dil mein to chain nahin, rahe nahin, sahe nahin
Yeh sawaal to khaayi jaaye
Jeena to maut na jaane kab aayega
Kise bulaake yeh kise le jaayega
Maut, jeene ke liye zaroori hai yeh
Maut, kaise ban gayi majboori hai yeh
Maut, lamhe ruk jaate jab yeh aati
Maut, saanson ko baahon mein leke jaati
Zinda hoke mar gaya, main marke zinda ho gaya
Dil ki dhadkan mein yeh zindagi ka shor hai
Dil manaate yeh shaq hai abhi
Har sawaal jawaab ka fizool hai
Yeh khayaal to kar le koi
Jeena dusaar hai, pyaar hai, yaar hai
Mardon ko yeh do raahein dikhaaye
Jeena to jeena hai, marna hai to marna hai
Jis ka waqt aaya hai usi ko chal jaana hai
Maut, sirf raahein badal jaate hai
Maut, naye daur khul jaate hai
Maut, lena dena tab pata chalta hai
Maut, kamaai ka hajara milta hai
Bekhabar hai, sawaal yeh nishaan hai
Mil jaaye jo voh hai naseeb
Jeena toofaani hai, baaqi sab bayaani hai
Jhooth leke jaati hai zindagi
Mera bulaava hai, yeh zindagi ka daava hai
Mujhe bulaaye yeh tujhe bhi bulaaye
Banke hawa muskuraaye
Meri maut, teri maut, iski uski sab ki bas
Maut, jeene ke liye zaroori hai yeh
Maut, kaise ban gayi majboori hai yeh
Maut, lamhe ruk jaate jab yeh aati
Maut, saanson ko baahon mein leke jaati
Maut, sirf raahein badal jaate hai
Maut, naye daur khul jaate hai
Maut, lena dena tab pata chalta hai
Maut, kamaai ka hajara milta hai
Maut

Become a Lie Detector

How to Detect Lies
Become a Lie Detector


Introduction to Detecting Lies:
The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.

Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.

Signs of Deception:
Body Language of Lies:
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.

• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.

• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”

• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.



Interactions and Reactions
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

Verbal Context and Content
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”

• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.

• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.

Related Books:


Never be Lied to Again



Body Language
Other signs of a lie:
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.

Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.

Most lie detecting experts agree that a combination of body language and other cues must be used to make an educated guess on whether someone is telling the truth or a lie.

Kaminey

kya kare zindagi,isko hum jo miley,
iski jaan khaa gaye,raat din ke giley,
meri aarzoo…kameenee,mere khwab bhi…kaminey
ik dil se dosti thi,yeh hazoor bhi…Kaminey
kya kare zindagi,isko hum jo miley,
iski jaan khaa gaye,raat din ke giley…

kabhi zindagi se maanga,pinjre mein chand la do,
kabhi lalten de ke,kaha aasma pe taango
jeene ke sab kareene,the hamesha se,
kaminey kaminey kaminey kaminey
meri dastaan…,kaminey,mere raaste kaminey,
ik dil se dosti thi,yeh hazoor bhi,kaminey

jiska bhi chehra chila,andar se aur nikla,
masoom sa kabootar,naacha toh mor nikla…
kabhi hum kaminey nikle,kabhi doosre kaminey,
kaminey kaminey kaminey kaminey
meri dosti kameenee,mere yaar bhi… kaminey,
ik dil se dosti thi,yeh hazoor bhi… kaminey

selfish people

Saying that I dont want anything return would be a lie, but a bit of understanding would be great! I have come to the realization that some person in my life are selfish which makes them sucky people. I have no expectations for these people and accept them for who they are-selfish.

One person take everything from his best friend, and then kill his best friend. just to full fill his requirements. if a person saying you his best friends, and sending you to shutter deaf. the person is lying.

Why mother is so special:

Why mother is so special:


When I came home in the rain,

Brother asked why you didn’t take an umbrella.
Sister advised why you didn’t wait till rain stopped.
Father angrily warned, only after getting cold, you will realize.

But Mother, while drying my hair, said, stupid rain!
Couldn't it wait,
Till my child came home?

That's MOOOOOOOOM

forgiving and forgetting.

I would like to hear your opinion on forgiving and forgetting. When people hurt you: do you forgive and forget? Or do you just forgive but don’t forget?

People who tend to be seen as good – usually forgive and forget. But I don’t think that this is a question of being good or evil – I think the point is about being just. So maybe the tendency to forgive and forget those that have hurt us is not necessarily a good thing. Because if we don’t do anything to people that hurt us – they will probably continue on hurting others.

This is the way I see it and I would like to hear you about this subject and also your own experiences.

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